- Has given birth to and be raising that child
This is the number one requirement to become a surrogate mother with Surrogate Alternatives as well as all IVF clinics. The reason is that once a woman gives birth, it shows she is able to become pregnant and establishes fertility. The IVF clinic will also require OB records from the surrogate, so the IVF physician can review them to make sure the surrogate had an uneventful and uncomplicated pregnancy. The reason Surrogate Alternatives likes to know you are raising your child, is that it shows stability as not only a mother and but also in life.
- Has a healthy lifestyle
This is very important to all parties involved. Our surrogate mothers must live a healthy lifestyle to be given the trust to take care of someone else’s child. Intended parents basically want to make sure their surrogate mother is taking care of the pregnancy like they would if it was their own child they were carrying. We all know as mothers, that it’s important to eat healthy and exercise while we are pregnant to avoid possible complications. This also ensures that the baby has a great start to life.
- Be financially stable
It’s very important to Surrogate Alternatives that our surrogate mothers are financially stable and not collecting government assistance. The reason that this matter’s to us it that we have to make sure they are becoming a surrogate mother for the right reasons and just not solely on the funds they will receive. Women who sign up to become surrogates understand that it takes sacrifice and time to be a surrogate mother. It’s also a great thing to receive the extra funds for your future, whether used to go back to school or save for a down payment on a first home.
- Responsible lifestyle
Surrogate Alternatives feels that the two above requirements fit into this category. We feel a surrogate mother must live a stable lifestyle in order to qualify to become a surrogate mother. This means no drugs of any kind, whether it is street or prescription pills without your OB’s consent. The child is the most important part of the surrogacy process and ensuring the babies health and wellbeing is expected.
- Be a non-smoker
This is a very important requirement when you sign up to become a surrogate mother. Smoking during pregnancy can cause a stillbirth, premature delivery, and low birth weight. It will also cut the oxygen off to the baby by narrowing blood vessels throughout your body, including the ones in the umbilical cord. So you see why we do not accept smokers into our program.
- BMI under 32
IVF clinics have become very strict in regards to the body mass index (BMI) a surrogate mother must be, in order to become a surrogate mother. The reason for this is, if you are over the normal BMI you are at a greater risk of developing diabetes, which can be a risk not only to you but also, to the pregnancy.
- No history of mental illness
To be a surrogate mother you have to be able to schedule appointments, remember to attend them and take the proper medication when the time comes. You have to also be able to read and understand the legal contract you will be entering into with the couple you help. Being a surrogate mother requires you to relinquish your rights to the baby once you deliver, as you are only the carrier and not the biological or legal parent. We have to be sure you are stable enough to be able to do that.
- Your age is between 21-38
During our 15 years of experience in operating a surrogacy and egg donation agency, we feel that our surrogates need to be at least 21 years of age to be a surrogate; this is also an IVF clinic requirement. We accept surrogate mothers up to the age of 38, since of course it’s the egg donors or intended mothers who provide their eggs, and not the surrogate mother.
- The surrogate must agree to psychological & drug screenings
This is one of the standard requirements of our program and the IVF clinic. The IVF clinic not only requires it, but it is important as you are carrying someone else’s child and must make sure you are healthy. The intended parents must put their trust in you, a complete stranger and this only helps them through this emotional process.
- IUD’s will have to be removed
If you have an IUD for birth control, you will have to schedule an appointment with your OB or primary care doctor to have it removed. You cannot proceed with an IVF cycle if you have an IUD, as the IVF doctor will need to look at your uterus to make sure there is no scarring or fibroids and he cannot do this with an IUD in place. You cannot have an IUD in you while attempting an embryo transfer.
- Tubal ligation is OK
It’s ok if you have had your tubes tied. As a surrogate mother, your eggs will not be used, only your uterus as the carrier.